I received a text from Emily that her friend has a "Ruby-ish" child and is struggling and feels that she is alone.
Emily requested some Ruby stories, to help her friend feel better and realize there are lots of crazy kids out there. :) After I wrote the email I realized I needed to save it for family history purposes, which means it needs to be posted to my blog.
Here is the email in it's entirety.
I honestly don’t have a lot of photo evidence of the really bad moments, because either she was in too dangerous of a situation to take a picture (on top of the fridge) or I was too in shock by the disaster or situation that she created to think of documenting it (this is the usual culprit).
But, I do have some that sum up her personality quite accurately.
Our life was all down hill when Ruby started walking at 10 months and climbing at 11 months. And figuring out how to get out of her highchair straps at 13 months. Hence I have lots of pictures of Ruby on the table.
She destroys most toys. Every toy she got for her 3rd birthday was broken by the end of the day, new stroller (her first one she got when he was 18 months and it lasted a few days until it started breaking), minnie mouse couch, and princess tent.
She has also bitten every head off the princess figures that were macey’s. This is Dora’s mom that she destroyed the first day I got the dora house down for her.
Lots of holes in clothing.
Obviously she’s a dumper. All it takes is me turning my back or going to dry my hair.
Nothing is off limits to her dumping, although she rarely dumps things in plain sight like in the kitchen or living room. She is usually more sneaky about it and likes to dump things in people’s rooms.
She also hides things. Once I found Macey’s diary key in the bottom of the aquafor.
Many things have gotten flushed down the toilet. Car keys included.
she loves to get her own snacks. We installed a lock on the pantry and child locks on the fridge and freezer (which she broke within the first day). I’ve got her off the top shelf in the panty, fridge, getting knifes, making her own chocolate milk.
Chairs have been pushed and pulled all over our house since she was 12 months old. I had to get rid of all stools and toy bins that you can stand on.
This day she locked me out of the house. and in the time it took me to run around to the back door she had flushed my keys down the toilet, gotten the tupperware with watermelon out of the fridge and pried open and got watermelon juice on as many surfaces as possible.
This day she locked me out to eat ice-cream. I keep a key in my pocket now.
every surface in our living room and her room has been drawn on.
I forgot to put the child lock back in place one day during her nap. She emptied every messy item from my craft drawers and left all the ribbon, paper, cards, crayons and things like that.
Her room was covered in stamps and markers and the soles of her feet and palms of her hands were red for a few days
Also, when we had just installed the kind of child lock you can get at toysrus, she broke it the first night and got out my sewing pins, Her floor was covered, so was her bed and pjs’ and they were even sticking her through her pjs while she slept when we checked on her that night. We then invested in the heavy duty kind of child locks and we’ve been safer ever since.
Remember the phase where she wouldn’t keep her diaper on at night? We tried backwards pjs and taped the diaper on, it worked half the time. It was a cold camping summer for her, sleeping naked.
She’s always dirty.
and loves to get into my makeup when I forget to lock the bathroom door. All of our doors have knobs that lock, turned around backwards with the keys hanging on hooks above the door jams.
She can tackle kids twice her size.
She cannot be contained and can climb most things the big kids can.
And she gets stuck a lot. This day she hauled this foot stool up stairs to my bathroom and got stuck. I’ve rescued her hanging from the top of the fence, monkey bars, top of fridge, hanging from the top shelf in the panty, on top of the car...
You’d think I don’t watch her, but I really do. It seriously just takes her 2 min to create a disaster or get into some sort of trouble.
Running errands with this child is almost impossible. I keep well stocked with dum dums, but that only works for a few min. If she thinks I’m taking too long she starts throwing things out of my cart. and always throws her shoes at me. You should see me trying to get her buckled in most days. There’s a lot of stiff arming and sweating happening until she is somewhat secure.
I believe she ran into the parking lot 3x during the kids haircut this past week and then when i would grab her she would spit at me, pull my hair and hit me. Eventually she had to be put in her carseat in the hot car for 15 min. cause it was safer than running into the parking lot.
She’s the most stubborn kid i’ve had.
But cute too.
And please, assure your friend I am an amazing mom who does not let her children run wild with no supervision. Tell her how good Crew and Macey are (you should probably leave miles out of it). :)
Ruby is 3.
: Mickey Mouse ClubhouseColor
: PinkBest Friends
: Roman and IzellaFavorite Toys:
Baby dolls, dr. Kit, princess figuresFavorite Princess:
Chocolate MilkFavorite Food:
Cereal (but she's not picky yet, she eats almost anything)Books:
How do Dinosaurs Get Well Soon, Baby lit fairy books, Alice the Fairy
Ruby loves all things girly, but is not girly at all. it's pretty funny. She loves all things pink and princesses, but has no idea how to be soft with anything. Almost every toy she owns is broken or dented. her baby dolls are about as dirty as she gets by the end of each day.
Her favorite pastime is to beat up on Crew. She has a very hard time sharing her toys and is not afraid to get down and dirty to get it back, which is why she beats Crew up a lot.
This is what I got when I told her to smile.
She loves to go to the park and play outside with Izella and Roman. She is always watching for her friends outside and wants to go out as soon as she spots ANYONE (neighborhood dogs included).
She still sucks her two fingers and rubs her belly button when she's tired.
She does not like to get her hair done. To be contained. Or told what to do. Thus, she still has a lock on her door.
But, she does like to do what the big kids are doing. So, that is at least helpful at after dinner chore time. Not so helpful when the other 3 are climbing rocks, jumping into the pool, or climbing on the tops of very tall slides.
She was very spoiled on her birthday and she loved every moment of it.
Minnie Mouse pancakes, as requested.
Lots of pink princess presents.
And hugs all around.
I think the favorite part of her day was that all the kids wanted to play with her and her new toys.
She still refers to Crew as "Crew-Crew", makes my heart happy.
In typical Ruby fashion most of her toys have already had to be repaired (stroller, minnie couch, and princess tent).
There are so many things I want to remember about her at this stage and then so many things I hope to forget too. :)
She's spicy, sassy, loud, cuddly, friendly, opinionated, strong, playful and very loveable.
This girl runs the house and no one seems to mind too much. She was meant to to be the baby of this family and we all love our Wild Ruby.
Paul took 2 weeks off, with one of those weeks being over the kids spring break. We took some time to play, Paul and Macey went to a tech conference in salt lake, and then Paul and I started our demo/remodel when the kids went back to school. Bryce Canyon/Kodachrome
Bryce was cold and muddy, but fun and beautiful as ever.
We lost a few shoes in the mud and had a few slips, but all the mud dried by the end of the day and everyone we saw had dried mud covering their shoes and legs too. It was just part of the adventure.
I am in awe of Byrce evertyime.
kids were great hikers.
I really hope they remember all these adventures!
We camped at Kodachrome, which has turned into one of our favorite Utah places.
Lots of exploring to do.
Ruby just climbed right up this cliff without any trouble.
The kids spent most of their time playing in this dry creek bed behind our campsite.
Crew's is always the child who's legs get too tired. I've gotten pretty good at carrying this beast of a child on my shoulders.
and then we woke up to snow the next morning. So, we packed up early and headed home. Yes, I am wearing a beanie and 3 hoods. Still cold and wet.
enjoying a lovely camping breakfast.
Thank goodness for ipads in times like these. Kept everyone busy and out of our way while we packed up in record time. I can't remember the last time my hands were so cold.
Kids were so involved with their ipads we got to make a few stops along the way home.
In the end it was all worth it and we eventually got everything dried out in our tiny backyard.
Spring Break was pretty low key after that.
We ate dinner in public. Rare occasion, but it went fairly well.
Visited Thanksgiving Point
Pond with friends
And my porch constantly looked like this.
Paul took Macey to NG Conf in Salt Lake, where she again had the time of her life.
The highlights were all the swag, swimming in the pool, eating all the awesome food and getting to meet the makers of her favorite Battle Bot, Witch Doctor.
Miles is really hoping he can get things together to go next year. :)
For the first time in motherhood I think I actually over scheduled us!! We had soccer, dance, karate, musical theater, track, ward party planning, potty training, sports camp, teacher appreciation, remodel, and then all the normal things!
So, glad I already promised myself no summer camps for the kids! I am already worn out. Sport Camp
This was Miles' 2nd year and can I tell you, huge difference! There was still some crying and whining before hand, but once we got there he was a champ.
Last year I think he spent half the time on the wall or crying to me.
It was good for me to see some improvement and that it really is worth pushing and forcing this kid to get out of his comfort zone.
season also finished! Still haven't decided if we will do it again, I am tired.
But once again, huge difference from last year.
The one thing Miles was most excited about this month was his First Grade program
He practiced every day for weeks. I had to make a playlist of the all the songs so he could practice in the car. He rocked it.
Macey lived at the Scera Theater
towards the end of the month. Between classes, rehearsals and the performances...it was a lot.
Her Showteam Class did "The Jungle Book" She was Kaa and a bumble bee.
And seriously, we have a tween
on our hands.
Georgia put hair extentions in her braid. :)
Two of her favorite things. Listening to music and facetiming with Kaylin.
I can already picture the teenage days ahead of us. Easter
neighborhood egg hunt was a success.
as was easter in the middle of the remodel. It at least gave us some new places to hide baskets.
And Ruby got to wear my favorite dress from Macey's toddler days.
I had to help plan the Spring Ward Party
. I'm not a big ward activity attendee, so this was a lot outside of my comfort zone.
We decided on a Spring Fling Dance.
I'd say it was a success. And my kids were just happy we finally let them go to a ward party. :)
Other Exciting happenings around here:
Paul bought a nintendo switch
It has been all Zelda and Mario Cart.
Miles formed a Bug Club
. It has been hilarious. He has them earning rewards based on how many bugs they've caught. They even earned a party with treats and a movie.
Ruby and Crew have joined in on the bug hunting, although they are not official members of "The Bug Club".
We made Teacher Appreciation
Posters. It was heaven not being in charge and only having to decorate 2 doors. Macey and Miles have the absolute best teachers this year, so it was fun having an excuse to bring in their favorite treats and let them know how wonderful they are.
The most exciting event this month (besides the remodel, which will be another post), was that I had the genius idea to potty train
It's gone about as well I expected.
All the kids helped though, so that made it nice. And Ruby even pooped while Miles was watching her and he wiped her bum, washed her hands, and gave her a sticker. I was a bit shocked when I came downstairs to check on them. Looks like Miles is more responsible that I give him credit for.
She's pretty well potty trained. But, she's stubborn and busy and has no desire to please. Which means we still have accidents from time to time and I have to remind much more than I did any of the other kids.
but I am seeing the light and just have to push through.
MARCH MADNESS ADVENTURES
We switched up our routine this month and found some new places to have adventures and explore.UTAH LAKE
While we have of course been to Utah Lake State Park before, we've always gone for some sort of event, so we hadn't actually explored.
So, exploring we did.
The highlight was finding some very cool rocks.
Ashley then introduced us to an area of Utah Lake that we had not been to before.
It was kid heaven. Mud, water, tall grass to hide in, a plank bridge and rocks.
And does anyone else's kids play The 3 Billy Goat Gruff every single time they cross a bridge on foot? Well, mine do. And I was a billy goat and the troll more times than I can count.
We loved this new place so much, we took Paul and M&M there the next Saturday.
I foresee many more explorations taking place here. HANGTIME
Michelle and I took the little kids to toddler time at Hangtime.
It was awesome. Michelle and I impressed our children with our skills. I was completely worn out. And it proved to me why I don't go when it's open to the public. YOGA WITH THE SHARKS
A highlight of the month for me was doing Yoga at the aquarium.
It was one of the best girls nights I have ever had. We got to do yoga outside the shark tank, then explore the entire aquarium kid free, and then dinner afterwards. DOUBLE DATE ANIMAL RIDING
Now, we have taken the kids to ride these animals at the mall, but this time it was an adult only double date.
It was amazing. We got some sweet video. We got lots of laughing in. And it's always nice to have a reminder to not take yourself too seriously. :) SCHOOL PROGRAMS
The 4th grade put on an awesome program about Utah's history.
Macey sang her little heart out and did a great job memorizing her lines. Love me a good elementary program.
We of course also frequented some of our favorite spring locations:BYUFARM COUNTRYTHE POND
loved all the snow on the mountains and these kids shocked us by actually playing and swimming in the freezing water.
Like every March, I also got myself a sweet tan/burn line from the many hours I spent sitting at the park with some of my favorite ladies.
I have also been sporting this sweet accessory at the park from time to time. Fanny Packs
are extremely useful. I've got all my necessities front and center while being hands free and not worrying about my phone falling out of my pocket. Plus, it's a good exercise for not worrying about what the other very stylish moms think. :) SOCCER
Spring soccer has started up again. Thus far we have not been lucky in the weather department. But Miles hasn't minded one bit.
We ventured out to Antelope Island before the bugs hit, that's 3 years in a row for us without any nightmarish bug stories.
We brought the O'Neals with us and the kids loved having friends to explore with.
Buffalo Point is one of my kids absolute favorite places to hike to.
There are few things they love more than rocks to climb and hide in.
Crew was quite happy this year that he could climb to all the same places as the big kids.
It was a bit stressful for me though. :)
And how cute are these little bffs?!?
Nailed another group selfie.
Then we ventured down to the Great Salt Lake.
I'd say it was a very successful month around here.